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Basic Social Manners – What Would Prophet Muhammad Do?

Basic Social Manners – What Would Prophet Muhammad Do?

By: Aisha Stacey

Islamic etiquette or good manners is a very important subject. It includes, but is certainly not limited to, greeting another Muslim in the proper way or standing up to let an elderly man take your seat in the bus.

All the prophets and righteous people displayed good manners. Their behavior with other people was well mannered and respectful and even more importantly their manner toward God was exemplary.

A Muslim who takes great care with his manners is a person with a strong moral character and an innate understanding of ethics and responsibility.

If Prophet Muhammad was able to see how flippant we are about manners today, it is not too far-fetched to think he would advise us to remember some of the basic teachings of Islam.

In Chapter 33 verse 21 of the Quran, God said that Prophet Muhammad was a good example for Muslims to follow. He did not qualify that statement by saying in this matter, or that matter.

Following the way of Prophet Muhammad in all matters will hold us in good stead in all aspects of our lives; from the very trivial to the very important. Prophet Muhammad was well mannered and respectful in any situation.

 

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In the authentic books of Hadith, Prophet Muhammad is said to have told his companions that God sent him to perfect good manners and to do good deeds. (Al-Bukhari)

Also from among the authentic hadith is a saying attributed to Prophet Muhammad’s beloved wife Aisha in which she describes her husband’s character as the Quran. (Muslim)

These small, seemingly minor, snippets of information combine to give us a great deal of important advice.

Prophet Muhammad’s character was a study in Islamic etiquette. He abided by God’s laws and commands and abstained from God’s prohibitions.

He did so while interacting with the world around him; his responsibility to God was evident in all his interactions.

Prophet Muhammad used Islamic etiquette with his family, his companions and neighbors, the wider Muslim community, and all living things. He was also well mannered when dealing with detractors, unbelievers, and enemies.

Nowadays and across the breadth of Islamic history, there are people who consider themselves to be righteous; they pray, fast and give in charity and yet they have awful manners. They spread gossip and back bite, or they treat their employees with contempt and rudeness.

In many cases they ignore the spiritual and emotional needs of the ones closest to them and fail to understand that the connection between piety and good manners is symbiotic. One cannot exist without the other. To imagine what Prophet Muhammad would say to these people, we only have to read the guidance and advice he gave his companions.

The best among you is the one who is best to his family, and I am the best to my family. (At-Tirmidhi)

The angel Gabriel kept advising me about the rights of neighbors until I thought he would make them entitled to some part of the inheritance. (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

Nothing is weightier on the scales (on the Day of Judgment) than good behavior. (Abu Dawud and At-Tirmidhi)

By his good character a believer will attain the degree of one who prays during the night and fasts during the day. (Abu Dawud)

The best of you are those who possess the best manners. (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

It is impossible to practice Islam effectively if we neglect the importance of good manners because Islamic etiquette is something that reinforces our faith. It should be a thread that runs through our day-to-day living complimenting and strengthening our worship.

Islamic good manners consist of spreading peace and mending broken relationships. It involves praying for our brothers and sisters in Islam, advising and calling each other to good and endeavoring to prevent evil or sinful behavior.

Islamic etiquette is also about respect. It directs us to show consideration and care to others; parents, elders, neighbors, members of the community in which we live and those who do not practice our faith.

It is about showing love and compassion to everyone we come in contact with and it includes visiting the sick and staying away from gossip and backbiting.

The scholars of Islam explain that good manners consist of knowing how to treat others. A Muslim must strive to avoid harming, annoying or inconveniencing anyone.

In the Age of Social Media

Prophet Muhammad told his companions that the true Muslim is a person who avoids harming other Muslims with his words or actions. (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

It might be useful to imagine how Prophet Muhammad would react if he could read the words we use on social media.

With the greatest of ease, Muslims defame and slander each other in public forums. And they do so without the slightest care and with little or no understanding of Islamic etiquette and the sinful nature of such behavior.

Consider another saying from the traditions of Prophet Muhammad:

A man utters a word pleasing to God without considering it of any significance and God raises his status in Paradise; another one speaks a word displeasing to God without considering it of any importance, and for that word he will sink down into Hell. (Al-Bukhari)

Perhaps we should replace the word utters with the word types. While there is undoubtedly great good in the proper use of social media, it can also be a way to accumulate sins.

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There are some people who think that the language and tone they use on the Internet is of no significance. But once the words have been typed and sent, they are out there in cyber space and we are not able to retrieve them or control their consequences.

In the privacy of their own homes, people feel free to express themselves in a way that would not be acceptable if they were in public. Prophet Muhammad would, no doubt, remind us to speak a good word or to keep silent. (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

He would also tell us to be careful of the things we say in case we should inadvertently say something harmful or untrue.

When it becomes a habit to speak badly, two things can happen, often both at the same time. We can forget that Islam has very high standards of behavior and morality, and we can fool ourselves into thinking that our spaces and our words are private.

From behind our screen and from inside our own homes we can berate the world, our communities, our neighbors and even our families.

However, God can see everything we do. Sadly many of us forget this on a daily or even hourly basis. Prayer timing is designed to keep us on track and remind us of this fact. Our private whispers can be overheard by the All Seeing, the All Hearing God.

Remembering this is one of the highest levels of faith. It is something very difficult to achieve without mindfulness in all our actions and interactions.

One way remembering, and examining our behavior at the same time is to ask ourselves if Prophet Muhammad would be proud of our etiquette. Would he think the high level of domestic violence in some communities is acceptable?

 

 

Would he think social media was the place to address our grievances with Sheikhs and scholars?

Islamic etiquette should permeate everything we do; it should come as naturally to us as knowing the timing of the prayers, and that Prophet Muhammad is the Messenger of God.

It doesn’t though; sometimes it flies out the window at the slightest opportunity.

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Posted by on December 11, 2017 in Know him !, Relax

 

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How Muslims Helped Save the Irish?

The little-known story of how Turkey was one of the only countries to come to the aid of Ireland during the Great Hunger will be the focus of a movie, “Famine.”

via How Muslims Helped Save the Irish — I Can Haz Khilafah?

 
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Posted by on December 11, 2017 in Relax

 

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Prophet of Mercy By: Abul Hasan Ali Nadwi (r.a)

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Posted by on December 9, 2017 in Know him !, Relax, The message

 

Prophet Muhammad and Entertainment !

Entertainment – as soon as we see this word in the various forms that it consists of today, it gives us a sense of happiness, a sense of belonging.

Entertainment is a form of activity that holds the attention and interest of an audience or gives pleasure and delight. It has captured the hearts of every single human being on the planet. One may ask, how beneficial is it to the human race?

Entertainment comes in many forms. Such as gossip about celebrities, movies, novels, singing, partying, sports, and travel. Just to name a few. Like many other things in life it consists of positive aspects and also has some harm in it. The wise person is the one who navigates through the bad to earn the good whenever and wherever one finds it.

Let’s delve into the Islamic way of entertainment. What! Does that mean entertainment is allowed in Islam? Of course it is! However it consists of stipulations which are to help in the betterment and growth of individuals.

Let’s take a glimpse at how the early Muslims used to entertain themselves, and especially how the prophet Muhammad (Peace be upon him) would find entertainment.

Entertainment in the life of the prophet

It was narrated by ‘Aa’ishah that she took a woman on her wedding night to a man from among the Ansaar, and the Prophet (PBUH) said to her, “O ‘Aa’ishah, was there any entertainment (in the gathering)? For the Ansaar love entertainment.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 4765.)

According to this hadeeth, the prophet not only encouraged but also took part in these happy occasions which involved entertainment. However, these occasions did not involve dancing, music, or mixing freely with the opposite gender. There were some guidelines. For instance the women would beat the Duff and sing, there were no other instruments involved.

How would the Prophet (PBUH) entertain his family?

The Prophet (PBUH) used to race with ‘Aa’ishah, and he used to joke with his family, treat them kindly and chat with them at night. (Muslim (670), Abu Dawood (1294) and an-Nasaa’i (1358).

In this hadith, it implies that having a joyful time with one’s family is very important. As the prophet (PBUH) used to engage in various things that would make his family happy. One should also strive to make his/her family content if it is merely by spending quality time together.

The prophet was a very approachable person. He was also very kind with the people around him and would enjoy social gatherings. Narrated from Jaabir ibn Samurah that the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) would not get up from the place in which he had prayed Fajr until the sun had risen, and when the sun had risen he would get up.

They used to chat and talk about matters of the Jaahiliyah (pre-Islam era), and they would laugh but he smiled.

Abu Hurayrah said: They said: O Messenger of Allah, you joke with us. He said: “But I never say anything but what is true.”  (Saheeh al-Adab al-Mufrad, by Shaykh al-Albaani no. 265. )

In the light of this hadeeth, one can see that the prophet (PBUH) used to joke around with his companions. Just like regular human beings. It is very hard to survive – actually quite impossible to survive without friends and family.

However, we must not forget the rules. Even in social gatherings there are certain rules that one must follow. One example is already given in the hadith and that is that while joking one should not speak falsely about anything. One would assume that it is a simple rule to follow but it actually covers a wide range of topics. For instance gossip. Although it is very entertaining to take part in such activities, one must refrain from such habits as it can become very harmful for the society.

Would the prophet (PBUH) enjoy his time with the youth?

Well the following hadeeth will shed some light upon this topic.

Ibn Maajah  (144) narrated from Ya‘la ibn Murrah that they had gone out with the Prophet (PBUH) to a meal to which they had been invited, and there was al-Husayn playing in the street. Prophet Muhammad (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) came in front of the people and stretched out his hands, and the child started to run here and there. The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) made him laugh until he caught him, then he put one hand under his chin and the other on his head and kissed him.

This hadeeth displays the importance of being warm and loving with the youth. Which has many benefits. One of the benefits is the spread of love and peace in the community.

The Prophet (PBUH) would also enjoy live shows. An example of such shows can be found in the following hadeeth;

Ahmad (24334) narrated that ‘Aa’ishah said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said on that day – i.e., the day when the Abyssinians played in the mosque: “The Jews should know that there is room for leisure in our religion. I was sent with a tolerant, monotheistic religion.”

Since Islam is a complete and perfect way of life. Henceforth when it comes to everyday life, there are guidelines put down by the Creator for one to follow. By doing this one is not constricting oneself in this vast atmosphere; however he/ she is freeing oneself from the harm that can come out of such kinds of entertainment. As one follows the guided form of entertainment one has fun and along with it gains the pleasure of the Creator, Allah (swt).

Everything that is a part of this world will one day be gone and  the real goal of Muslims should be the pleasure of their Lord. As that was also the main goal of our beloved prophet Muhammad (PBUH).

“Say (O Muhammad (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him)): “Verily, my Salat (prayer), my sacrifice, my living, and my dying are for Allah, the Lord of the Worlds” (Al-An ‘aam 6:162).

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Posted by on December 3, 2017 in Know him !, Relax

 

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From a Playboy Girl To Islam

Felixia Yeap is a former model who posed for magazines. She also used to appear on car shows and beauty pagans. On July 2014, she officially announced her conversion to Islam. But how did a girl at the top of her modelling career decide to leave her extravagant lifestyle and embrace Islam?

Felixia Yeap was born in Malaysia in 1986. Her early experiences with religion did not provide any meaning to her: “I used to attend Catholic Church every Sunday evening… I’ve tried to understand Christianity. I also tried to adopt Buddhist practices. I’ve tried to find new meaning in worshipping Kuan Yin and others. But my heart never felt close to God. My heart never felt touched.”

She started modelling in 2005 and appeared on the 3rd season of the TV program “I Wanna Be a Model”. In 2009 she was crowned Velocity Angels’ Model of The Year. However after reaching fame and success in modelling, she says that she felt “hollow and exploited. I crumbled time after time. I picked myself up just to crumble all over again… I had never asked for fame, dramas, marrying some rich guy and brag about wealth and all. I was really just passionate about posing in front of camera and strutting down the runway.”

Then in 2013, she received an offer to take photo shoots while wearing the Islamic hijab. She says that dressing modestly gave her unprecedented feelings of protection, happiness and safety. She felt liberated by the hijab. “I realized that I was looking forward to cover up (my body) more”. The hijab got her thinking of her worth as a woman “I believe that I am worthy of more than just showing off my body. I am more than this. And I don’t feel proud if any of those fame seeking model wannabes out there look at me as idol or role model. I don’t want you to be blaming me when your career is pretty much done and you feel empty, used, lost and hollow after all those exposures and exploitations.”

“I started to look for something deeper: a religion, a God, a better way of living life. I wanted to cover myself up more, be respected and be known for who I am inside not for how much flesh I am showing outside. If a religion could show me the beauty of life and living, why not try to understand it? Why detest it just because a few confused racists and extremists try to twist things around?”

On the day she became a Muslim she said “Today is a historic day for me. It’s like a rebirth.. I hope everyone will pray that I will be steadfast and committed in my new journey.”

https://www.allamericanmuslim.com/felixia-yeap/

 
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Posted by on November 13, 2017 in Relax

 

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Perverse Nature

Al-Baqara (The Cow) Sura 2: Verse 258 (partial)

“Allah does not give guidance to wrongdoers.”

This sums up the basic principle concerning guidance and error. The term zalimin (wrongdoers or unjust persons) in Quranic terminology refers to those who misuse the gifts and faculties given to them by Allah. Instead of considering them as Allah’s blessings and being grateful to Him, they regard them as theirs by right — a privilege that they deserve. Consequently, they become proud and insolent like Iblis, the Devil. Instead of obeying Allah and adoring Him, they install themselves over others as their gods and lords. Such people, the Quran says, are unjust and become wrongdoers and are left to grope in darkness all their lives. No matter how clear and plain the message of truth is, because of their perverse nature, they always find some excuse to refute and reject it. Like Nimrod, they are sometimes dazzled by truth, but they cannot see clearly. They may at times be puzzled and rendered speechless, yet they will not embrace the truth and walk in its path.

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“Pondering Over The Qur’an: Surah al-Fatiha and Surah al-Baqarah” – Amin Ahsan Islahi

 
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Posted by on September 16, 2017 in Relax

 

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10 Prophet Muhammad’s Hadiths on Health.

Health, cleanliness and hygiene occupy a great part of Islam’s attention.

While some nations adopted such beliefs as abandonment of self-care and cleanliness to attain high spiritual ranks, Islam made it obligatory to clean oneself properly in preparation for daily prayers.

Caring for one’s hygiene is not only deemed a good habit in Islam but also rendered into rituals that constitute part of the faith itself.

As mentioned above, a Muslim is required to be clean when performing daily Prayers, which includes properly cleansing oneself after using the toilet and practicing ablution.

In some cases, a full body bath is obligatory such as after spouses’ intimacy.

Moreover, the great encouragement for cleaning teeth as shown in the hadiths below reveals to which extent Islam was careful even for the details of personal hygiene.

That is no strange for Islam cares about the wellbeing of the human both in the world and in the hereafter. A healthy strong believer is better in the sight of Allah than a weak one as the former is more qualified to fulfill the objectives of Islam and serve the humanity.

This collection of hadiths presents only some examples of Islam’s stance on health and hygiene:

Cleanliness is part and parcel of faith

1. Abu Malik Al-Ash`ari (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: “Purity is half of iman (faith). 

Miswak is highly recommended 

2. `A’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “The miswak (a twig used for tooth brushing) cleanses and purifies the mouth and pleases the Lord.” (An-Nasa’i and Ibn Khuzaimah; authenticated by Al-Albani)

3. Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said,

Were it not that I might overburden my my followers, I would have commanded them to use the miswak before every prayer.” (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

Personal hygiene is a human nature

4. Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:

Five practices are of the fitrah (natural disposition): circumcision, shaving the pubic region, clipping the nails and cutting the moustaches short.” (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

Rituals on Muslims’ best day

5. Abu Dharr (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:

Whoever takes a bath on a Friday and does it well, and purifies himself and does it well, and puts on his best clothes, and puts on whatever Allah decrees for him of the perfume of his family, then comes to the mosque and does not engage in idle talk or separate (pushing between) two people; he will be forgiven for (his sins) between that day and the previous Friday.” (Ibn Majah and authenticated by Al-Albani)

Keep environment clean

 

6. Mu`adh (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet warned,

Beware of the three acts that cause you to be cursed: relieving yourselves in shaded places (that people utilize), in a walkway or in a watering place.” (Ranked sound, hasan, by Al-Albani)

7. Abu Dharr Al-Ghafari (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said,

Removing harmful things from the road is an act of charity (sadaqah).” (Authenticated by Al-Albani)

Using medicine is encouraged

8. Usamah ibn Sharik (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated:

I came to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) and his Companions were sitting as (quiet as) if they had birds on their heads. I saluted and sat down.

The desert Arabs then came from here and there. They asked: Messenger of Allah, should we make use of medical treatment?

He replied: “Make use of medical treatment, for Allah has not made a disease without appointing a remedy for it, with the exception of one disease, namely old age.” (Abu Dawud and authenticated by Al-Albani)

Be strong and healthy

9. Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) narrated that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said,

“A strong believer is better and dearer to Allah than a weak one, and both are good. Keenly pursue what benefits you, seek help only from Allah, and do not give up. If something befalls you, do not say, ‘If only I had done otherwise,’ but rather say, ‘Allah so determined and did as He willed,’ for ‘if only’ opens the door to Satan’s work.” (Al-Bukhari)

(Muhammad Fathi is the managing editor of the Shari`ah page, AboutIslam.net)

 
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Posted by on September 9, 2017 in Relax

 

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