Once Abu Dharr and Bilaal (ﺭﺿﻲ ﺍﻟﻠﻪ ﻋﻨﻬﻤﺎ) had a dispute, but in a moment of anger Abu Dharr said: “O son of a black woman!”
So Bilaal complained to the Prophet (ﺻﻠﻰ ﺍﻟﻠﻪ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ) who said: “O Abu Dharr, did you slander his mother? You are a man in whom there is still some jaahiliyyah (ignorance)!”
Abu Dahrr began to cry profusely and asked the Prophet to ask for forgiveness for him. Abu Dahrr left the mosque with tears streaming from his eyes and went to Bilaal.
When he saw Bilaal he placed his cheek on the ground and said: “I will not get up until you place your foot over my face. You are the noble and I am the lowly!” Bilaal began to cry: he approached Abu Dharr, stood him up and kissed him on that very cheek. Then they hugged each other and cried together.
This sure tells us that we have to teach ourselves to be humble and not to insult our brothers and sisters in Islam…
God says:” O you who have believed, let not a people ridicule [another] people; perhaps they may be better than them; nor let women ridicule [other] women; perhaps they may be better than them. And do not insult one another and do not call each other by [offensive] nicknames. Wretched is the name of disobedience after [one’s] faith. And whoever does not repent – then it is those who are the wrongdoers.” chapter 49 verse 11
Abu Hamzah Anas bin Malik (may God be pleased with him), who was the servant of the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) reported that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said:“None of you truly believes (in Allah and in His religion) until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself”
So how can we insult each others and we don’t love to be insulted, how we insult or say ugly words about someone while we don’t know if this person is loved by Allah more than us, if he/she fears Allah more than us…